on growing up

I think growing up is something that a lot of people aren’t okay with.

Remember when you were a kid and you wanted to grow up, thinking it was cool and you’d finally make your own choices in life? Yeah well, as you grow up you will hate growing up even more.

One important thing you should keep in mind is that you will never fully grow up.

You will never know everything you should know. Even if you’re 83 or something you can’t say I have known everything I should because who knows, during that time you wouldn’t know that robots would be taking the world or something. Anything can happen in the future. You wouldn’t want to go to school again to learn about that at the age of 83, would you? That’s why every parent tells you “You learn something new every day”. And they are right.

There are different steps of learning through life.

First when you are a toddler, you will learn your ABCs and numbers. Next when you’re in 1st grade you will learn how to do simple math and read. Then you will learn the more complicated parts in all these subjects. And when you finally graduate from school, you’ll think you have learned most of everything, but you haven’t. After school you will know what you want to master fully. That is if you’re interested. You can be incredible at one thing, not everything. And that’s what I mean when I say that you will never fully grow up. I don’t mean physically, I mean mentally.

But being smart isn’t the only sign of growing up.

Your body is another sign. If you’re 20 and you’re 4ft tall then that will show that you haven’t grown properly due to you not taking care of yourself. Or that just means you have dwarfism. Then that is just a “you” issue. All those things that the teens will have to go through during puberty is also a sign of growing. But don’t take your physical body as the one thing that should grow. It will stop growing at some point. Take care of your brain as well. But that is just another sign of growing. The next one is the most important.

Maturity.

Being mature is the one thing people will judge you on if they want to see you grow. According to most people if you aren’t mature then you haven’t grown. That isn’t entirely true, but it is slightly true. If you want to get friends, you will have to be mature enough. Check out this conversation between 3 friends, for example.

Friend #1:

So, do you want to go to the park.

Friend #2:

No. It’s nighttime. It’s very scary. There could be vampires hiding in the bushes.

Friend #3:

Uh, what?

Friend #1:

You’re 10 and you still believe in vampires? Forget it, let’s just go to my house.

Friend #3:

Sure. Have you seen Stranger Things. You should, it’s great. It’s got all the mystery and violence in it.

Friend #1:

Sure.

Friend #2:

No. I don’t like violence.

Friend #1:

Then what do you want to watch.

Friend #2:

Oggy and the Cockroaches

Friends #1 and #3:

HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!! Nah, it’s fine bro. I’ll see you never you 3-year-old.

Friend #2:

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You just need to make sure you aren’t Friend #2!

Here is a thing I doubt though. If people don’t like to grow, then why do they get excited about their birthday? The whole concept of birthday parties is to celebrate you getting older. But people are so happy when it’s their birthday. I’d understand if they are just excited about the party but no. Some people are only happy that they are older on that day.

Jimmy:

It’s my birthday!! I’m 18 now. I love growing up.

THE NEXT DAY

Jimmy:

Man, I’m 18 now so now I have all these responsibilities I must take care of. GROWING UP SUCKS!!

Maturity will also show you how smart you are. That’s why very mature kids tend to play with people a little older than them.

This is what I think but, don’t mature too fast. If you do, then you may think the other people older than you are dumber than you, but they aren’t. They are just trying to treat you by how old you really are. And even if you do mature fast don’t show that to their faces. You can act immature with your friends. If you act mature all the time you will be a very serious and depressed person. That’s how I think teenagers are sometimes. Whenever they talk to adults, they give the face that says, “Do I look like I was born yesterday?”.

This is me talking in 2023 by the way.

You don’t want to see me when I was younger. I learnt all this the hard way. I was a very immature kid. When I was 8, I still believed in Santa Claus. When I was 7, I still believed in the tooth fairy. Mainly because my parents would slip in the money during the night.

I remember when I took tennis classes when I was seven and my uncle was playing with me. I remember myself thinking that I was a master at tennis. I was hitting the ball no matter where it went, and I beat my uncle in a match. I beat him. I would always just think back to that day whenever I felt sad. But then when I was 8, the thought came in my head “I don’t think he meant to win the match. He went easy on me. Man GROWING UP SUCKS”.

Another story.

When I was 6, my mother would tell me “Bulky is going to come into your house if you don’t sleep at 9 o’clock”. And I remember just running to bed at 9 and I would just shiver in my bed thinking “I better go to sleep before Bulky comes and eats me alive”. So, my mom was concerned and said, “Sandesh you know Bulky won’t come during Fridays and Saturdays so you can stay up late”. I still wasn’t screaming with joy because I was trying to sleep.

You know the first time I washed my own butt after pooping. That was when I was 6. I remember because I said something I regret saying to this day. “This is the worst day of my life”. If time travel existed, I would go to my 7-year-old self and say “You think this is bad. Think about how much trouble mom and dad had to go through cleaning my poop for 6 years. They have it much worse than you. You can’t even clean your own poop. So shut your mouth and START WASHING!”

But that isn’t even the worst incident. Here goes nothing. So, I was in 2nd grade and we had to do a snow-white play in school. Guess who I was? I was the prince. So, when I saw the girl who was snow white, I got mad in my head. That was because I hated that girl. I thought in my head “I had to kiss this idiot. Uh, fine”. It was just that I didn’t know that I didn’t have to kiss her really, I just had to pretend. That’s why it’s acting younger Sandesh. So, I kissed her. Yes, I kissed her in the cheek in front of 20 people when I was seven. I had lived alone my whole life, so I didn’t know that kissing someone on the cheek was embarrassing. Everyone was laughing their butts off. One of the kids had talked about it for 4 years to everyone. He left the school now, thank God (No offense). I haven’t told anyone else since. Except I just did. Please don’t tell anyone.

So, what did you learn?

You learnt that growing up sucks, but you must deal with it.

It will teach you new things every day and you shouldn’t fear passing away later. Life is great and you should enjoy it while it lasts.

And you also learnt that I was an idiot.

BYEE!!!