On friendship

Ever thought that you needed help or wanted to do something with someone. If you have then who would you do it with?

If you are a kid and you live in a place where there isn’t any company, you’d probably do it with your parents. If that is the case, you probably would be a little uncomfortable trying to talk to people outside your house.

If you are an adult/kid who lives near company and you feel bored inside your house, you’d go out and try to meet other people. To the people that go out and meet people a lot, you will have these different groups of people. Some of them would just be people you’d see a lot and just say hello to. Some of them would be people who you aren’t comfortable with. Some would be people who just don’t like you according to your reputation.

But you will have some people who are close to you, know you well, help you and meet you often. These people are friends.

Now what is friendship? According to the dictionary, friendship is the state of affection, esteem, intimacy, and trust between two or more people.

Now if you just know someone slightly then they are not really your friends. These people are acquaintances. Now it doesn’t matter if you just have a friend. You need to be in a good relationship with them. If you doubt their choices about what they are doing with you then you aren’t really friends.

Also, if you fight all the time, never agree on anything, and not enjoy your company with each other then you aren’t friends. Now keep in mind, being friends doesn’t mean you’ll never argue. It’s common for friends to have trouble getting along. Sometimes these fights can make you stronger and closer. You could also get tricked by staying friends with someone. They could just be using you for resources or transport.

Here’s some advice for getting friends. First, don’t have too many close friends. You may be annoyed by how people would call you or text you. And if you do many friends then try to keep a good amount of free time. If they all want to meet you at the same day and if you don’t have the whole day to meet everyone, then reset the schedule for another day for the people you haven’t met. If you are a patient person and like being around people, then having many friends won’t be a huge problem for you. There are advantages of having many close friends. That is, if you need something urgent, you can count on many people to help you.

Next, don’t have only one or two friends. If you do, make sure you have the best and most healthy friendship with them. And make sure they are free most of the time. If you only have two friends and neither of them are free, then you are in big trouble. If you are a person who isn’t comfortable with having many people in your life, then you are fine. I suggest that you have about 5-10 friends. That is, close friends. It won’t annoy you by how many people will want to do stuff with you and you won’t have to worry about trying to get help. You’ll have many people to ask for help.

I saw this thought from a comedy (References are below), but this is worth mentioning. It’s much easier to get friends while being a kid than an adult. If you are an adult, you will just have to stick with whatever group you’re in then. It will be hard to find others who are like you, and this is where I’m getting to my point. When you are an adult, you tend to eat and talk more often than playing outside. So, if you aren’t similar in any way to the person who you’re talking to, you’ll have a hard time trying to talk about something.

Now making friends while being a kid is the easiest thing in the world. If you have anything in common, you will become best friends. If you just see some kid walking around the road, there you go. That’s your friend. And it doesn’t matter cause anything you have in common will make you best friends. If you like Coca-Cola and he likes Coca-Cola, then there you let’s be best friends.

Now if you ask me if I have friends, then you better believe that I do. I have a group of seven people including me. One is extremely funny and smart, one is really disciplined and strong, two are really into sports, one is also funny but strong, one is smart but a little weird and then there’s me. And let’s face it, we will never agree on the same thing. But that’s the beauty of friendship. It’s so different. It shows that different people with completely different thoughts come together to form friendship and that is normal.

Imagine a group of ten who are the same. You wouldn’t even know they are different people. You’d think they are siblings or something. Anyways what did you hear while reading this. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again. According to the dictionary friendship is the state of affection, esteem, intimacy, and trust between two or more people.

I also gave some tips for having healthy friendships (If you take this seriously and use them, I would really appreciate it). But what is most important is having loyal people outside of parents in your life.

So, if you don’t have any friends go out there! Go and get one!

And if they ask how are you a great person at making friends, you’ll know what the answer is.

References

1. https://www.britannica.com/topic/friendship

2. https://kidshelpline.com.au/teens/issues/fights-friends#:~:text=It's%20common%20for%20friends%20to,hard%20to%20sort%20things%20out.

3. https://kidshelpphone.ca/get-info/arguing-friend-heres-how-fight-fair/#:~:text=Being%20friends%20doesn't%20mean,feeling%20judged%2C%20mocked%20or%20insulted.

4. The Dictionary